The key to charisma

I am shy. True. To those who know me. False. To my friends I am outgoing, almost a leader. True. To those who do not try to know me I tend not to reach out. True. I am bad at making friends. False. People who show a tiny amount of interest in me, get ten fold in return. True. They always return the gesture. False. This is generally the way my life works. True. I will never take the first step. False. It all depends on the situation. True. Wow that was annoying as all hell. Anyway this is what I am saying. I am a generally outgoing person when I am in my element, at a concert, in the wilderness, hiking, with a group of friends, when interaction is forced, or when I have superior knowledge or age. I am not an outgoing person when I am out of my element, doing something I do not understand, when I am younger, when someone is presented as some sort of authority, alone at a party, or when I walk by someone. When I am outgoing two things seem to happen: 1) I gain the trust and respect of whoever I am meeting. 2) I somehow take charge of the situation, lead the conversation and plan for the future. I am glad as I gain knowledge of my current situation it is beginning to happen more and more. I feel more and more like I belong where I live, less new, more local. I am in my element. My element is good. My element is expanding.